Far Off

We often talk about the joy of being part of a community, singing praises and feeling connected to the bigger picture. But what happens when you're surrounded by that collective energy and still feel completely disconnected?

There’s a subtle pain in feeling left behind spiritually, even when others are swept up in praise. What does it mean when God’s promises feel distant, meant for someone else? And how do we navigate that sense of being out of sync?

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Room

"In all of this, Job did not sin..."

We talk about the patience of Job. We hear sermons sometimes about Job's friends, the different perspectives they have on the reason for suffering, and how God presents himself in the end.

But in my experience, we don't often reflect on those moments in the first chapters, when Job loses almost everything. All he has left is a wife who counsels him to curse God, and friends who seem to think it's all his fault.

We need to explore that instance of tremendous loss, less the whole process around it, because we have this testimony that he did not sin. What does that mean, and what hope does it give us for our lives?

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Submission

We like to be in the drivers' seat - the one who determines where this ride goes, when it pauses for rest, and what path will be taken. We can get delusions of grandeur, only to be disillusioned and frustrated when those plans fail to materialize.

A life submitted to God's will may well be a life lived in obscure mediocrity. But even in faithful submission, the underlying assumption can still doggedly persist that at some point in life we know the story and how it turns out.

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Fostering's End

We never want to say goodbye. Many, many people have told me they can't do foster care, because they "would get too attached." I fault not a single one of them.

I got attached - after all, there are only so many children who will call me Daddy. But when foster care ends and one of them moves on, the loss can (and should) send shockwaves through the core of our family identity.

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Adjustment

Like an instrument that is out of tune, we all have parts of our lives that seem out of phase with reality. We desire to be in perfect harmony with God's creation, yet we struggle with weaknesses and vices that tear us away from the ideal and present a dissonance that colors our daily experience.

Let's walk through this concept to discover where we ought to be grounded, and how we can expect spiritual reality to interact with everyday life.

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Uphill

A couple weeks ago, I drove out of town to do some day hiking. Almost 15 miles of following the trail, pacing myself to the end, and reaching the destination. Sometimes I had deep confidence that everything would work out just fine. I felt strong. Other times, I became aware of a different feeling: despair.

Confidence, then despair, then confidence, the cycle continued switching off all day. It took me far too long to figure out the pattern, though you may have guessed it already. But once I did, that pattern struck a chord within me for how life works.

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Stretched

There is a mistake I have seen pastors make time and time again. I am surely guilty as well, on numerous occasions. It's a mistake that has the potential to cut down even those we see as strong and mature in the faith. And it's ignored in some major seminaries and ministry training programs.

Pay attention to how you stretch. Responsible soul care demands it.

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Not for Eternity

"They tolerate you sometimes, but they don't want to be around you."
"You had some good ideas for a while, but you're not useful anymore."
"God knows you're just following him to try to get what you want."

You know that voice - the one inside our brains that somehow knows just what to say to tear us down. Many of us experience these types of intrusive messages to some degree.

But the things the inner critic tells a follower of Christ can't possibly be true in the life to come.

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Mountaintop

The music swells, hands are raised. The crescendo of band, lyrics, and lights are all unified to lead the crowd in a passion of worship. The messages fall thick and fast about what we should all be feeling.

They are all so talented, and the words so appealing. And yet I feel... so tired.

So what gives? Are there aspects of Jesus they resonate with that I'm just missing?

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Balance Next to Chaos

We plan out our days, we lay groundwork for large life goals, and we try to set our ducks in a row so things go our way. We like to control our life stories as much as humanly possible and balance everything in our minds, in our families, and in our checkbooks.

But when you think you have yourself well-balanced, the prime test will come when you find yourself in close contact with someone who is not.

We talk a lot in the Fog Life blog about the experience of being in that fog. Today, let's switch gears - we need to talk about the other people around the suffering soul.

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